Holiday Reflections On Road Rage

Yesterday, we had an event at my office and everyone was so kind and incredibly inspirational. My mind was on cloud nine, my faith in humanity fully restored.

Evening approached and the Christmas lights took on their full form, muscle memory led me to the car and out the parking lot. As I listened to Brenda Lee Rock Around the Christmas tree, a gale force wind ushered me to the freeway on ramp where I descended into five lanes of mostly thoughtful drivers.

However, there is always that ONE who thinks if they are just ahead of you they will get there faster. With Christmas Cheer, she emerged from my blindspot to offer me the gift of a bird.

For a moment, I started to get pissed… and then suddenly… I realized how unhappy she must be. Immediately, my temperature dropped and I felt genuine sadness for her. My mind traveled back to much earlier days in my life when I was not so happy. The smallest things could make me angry and I was always running defense. The reality - the wounds causing those behaviors needed care. I could see part of me in her. This young lady needs care.

Rudeness and sarcasm is one indicator of childhood trauma, most likely created by the people we have loved the most. When people are yelling names, giving the bird and displaying other aggressions, this is a release of anger from the daily pain they carry. Making someone feel unloved is one of the cruelest acts.

This experience reminded me of how far I have come in my own healing work and how age has offered the gift of insights. Now, I’ve moved beyond those pains and the more I do, the more I remind my loved ones how much they are cherished.

This young lady has some level of greatness to offer the world. Tonight, I’ll pray for self awareness and love and as I develop myself, may she receive a spiritual part of that for herself. Healing and growth for one individual helps us all grow and develop. I made it through and so will she.

Wishing you a cheerful holiday season.