I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me

One evening about 23 years ago, my friend Sherry hosted a healing circle. While in circle, we began to talk about the power of forgiveness; of ourselves and others. Sherry was very active in Hawaiian Healing techniques. She offered an affirmation she had learned from her teacher to help promote the healing process within us:

I love you

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

The words are lovely. We chanted several times, enjoyed each others company and left for the evening. On my way home, I focused the affirmation on forgiving myself and began to repeat it over and over again.

The next day, I decided to continue the affirmation on a mala. Halfway through my mala, the words started to become extremely difficult. At first, an omitted word, next a forgotten line. The barriers were breaking down. After a couple of days, I felt light and free of any blocks.

The mantra worked very well and quickly. I decided to apply it to people in my life where there was unfinished business. I allowed myself to set the intention and move freely between forgiving another, a situation or myself. This continued for a few weeks, as I would recite whenever I had a free moment. At one point, the energy was clearing so quickly, I had to take an evening for myself and cry out the rest.

The affirmation become a personal mantra. In 2005, a friend of mine started to go through a rough time, at the same time my life started to change dramatically. We lost touch. This bothered me for years because this was a very important friend to me. In 2010, I thought I would give this mantra a real test. Nervous as hell, I emailed this old friend and asked to speak with them. I kept the email short and in it I said “ I love you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you”.

Almost immediately, I received a return email. Missed years immediately drained away. We were both in tears and happy to be re-connected. The next day, my friend emailed me and told me they felt their heart had been moved into a higher state of compassion!

Please use these words to forgive yourself and others. Don’t be afraid to say them during an argument with a loved one and repeat them to help heal lost moments.

Unfortunately, my friend Sherry moved to the other side of life in 2016. I will always be grateful for her guidance and teaching.

Peace be with you.